THE Real Life Never Ending Story


Okay guys. Here come the feels. 

I am not having the best day. In fact, I am in what I call a “funk.” I have low energy, I have little of myself to give, and I know I’m ready for a break. 

I have good insight and resources to help myself when I get in these moods though. So I was sitting at my desk starting to plan my pity party when it hit me… what if I didn’t? 

What if I wasn’t insightful? 

What if I didn’t have resources?

What if the funk never ended??

What if. 

Can you imagine it?? 

Take your time. 

Seriously. Take a minute. 

Imagine your worst day. When you’re exhausted and you have nothing left to give.
But you HAVE TO keep going. Your family needs you. 

Now add on anxiety. 
Not a little. Let’s go big and add the full shebang. You worry about EVERYTHING. 

So You’re depressed and guilty about it. And you worry about that. And you worry about the bills. And your kids. And your job. And your health. And that thing you said in third grade. And your hair. And your husband. And your mother in law. And the bananas that are going bad. And. Every. Other. Thought. That comes through your head. 
And then. You get more depressed because you cannot stop getting anxious about it. 

Anxiety and depression not your cup of tea? 

Okay, go back to that worst day ever you were imagining. Now imaging humming. All day. Loudly. Add a buzzing too. You know what, lets add voices too. Four. Three talking to each other. One to you. And they. Don’t. Stop. All day. And all night. 

Over. 

And over. 

And over. 

They just keep talking. 

Can you imagine it??
What if you hated your body? Your beautiful body that helps your live life. What if, when you looked in the mirror, it didn’t even look like you? What if it was a scary monster you didn’t recognize and you would do anything in your power to change the mirror? What if that included starving or other forms of self harm?

Can you imagine??

Bare with me. 

Imagine your worst day. 

Imagine my funk. 

Now imagine it happening. Again. And again. And again. 

Mental illness is real. 

Whether people choose to talk about it or stigmatize it, IT EXIST. People are dealing with very serious issues. The more we talk about it, the more likely people are to reach out for help. 

Do your part and spread the word. 

This is 2017. It’s time people accept the reality that is mental illness. 

#suicidepreventionweek #endstigma #keeptalkingmh #sicknotweak #composmentiscounseling ❤️

Fighting with Kindness

Sometimes an argument can end in two ways: you can fight to prove you are right or you can choose to put your differences aside. The latter is the harder option. Choosing peace over winning is a learned skill. 

I am not advocating to be a “push over” or not to stand up for yourself. I am instead saying to choose your battles. You do not have to be right every time. Sometimes you can agree to disagree and sometimes you can say sorry first. 

Talk a deep look at yourself and your fighting style today. When you argue, do you want to be known as kind or right? 

Morning Routine 

Any coffee drinkers? ☕️ Yogis? Any one like Meditation? Prayer? Reading? Just a quiet minute! 🚨🚨🚨THIS POST is your reminder to start your day in a positive way so that you are setting it up to be a GOOD DAY! Speak positivity. Create it. Use self fulfilling prophecy to your advantage. Don’t argue. Run around rush. Hit snooze four times. Or worry yourself with negative news online. Find something positive to do and start your day off right! 🌻💛

Effort + Results 

Ever heard the first step is the hardest? 

Every great journey in life started SOMEWHERE. That great basketball player you admire so much had to dribble his first ball. That amazing scientist working to cure cancer? She had to learn to read. 

Everyone has a first step to their journey. 




That first step, the baby step, adds up. It may not seem important to you right now or it may be just the opposite. It may terrify you. You may be so scared of your journey that you keep pushing off that first step. 

My encouragement to you today is do it. Try. Have faith. Believe in yourself and in possibilities. 

Sometimes.. a little effort can lead to big results. 

Graduation Update 

Cutest. Party. Ever.

My cake + cupcakes turned out GORGEOUS and were actually enough to feed everyone! 🙌🏼

We had a DELICIOUS street taco bar for my grad party! Fiesta! 🎉

Even my puppy had a good time!

I got a massage, mani + pedi, and my hair cut and styled the day of! It was super relaxing and special. I loved every bit of it.

Finished product!


I felt beautiful and had a great day! My family was supportive, my friends were a blast, and most important… I GRADUATED! 🎓❤️

Reality vs. Realities 

Realizing there can be more than one version of reality is probably the best thing that ever happened in my journey as a clinician. That realization allowed me to look at clients as individuals and help meet them where they were at with THEIR goals instead of trying to “fix” them and teach them “the truth.” 

Are hallucinations a symptom? 
Yes. 
Are they also a part of some people’s reality? 
Yes. 

It is naive to deny psychosis, delusions, symptoms of personality disorders, etc AREN’T a part of day to day life. 

Ultimately I found if you treat the person as a person and let them personalize their treatment plan, you should be good to go! 

Graduation Reflection 

Guess who graduates in THREE DAYS? 👊 That’s right! This girl right here! 🌻

Never did I imagine people would be coming to ME asking questions about getting their degree or careers in counseling! I’m “little ole nobody.” 

Right

You’ve probably said it before.  I did

Week after week. 

Month after month. 

Until finally I decided to ignore or better yet reframe those negative thoughts to something positive

I AM ME.

I AM STRONG.

IT WILL BE TOUGH, BUT SO AM I. 

I CAN DO THIS. 

Ever since I decided to get out of MY OWN WAY, nothing has stopped me. 

Some days have been harder than others, but every.  single.  one of them have been worth it to get to this point. 

This is the point in my life where I show that insecure, doubting girl from 2.5 years ago that SHE DID IT! 🎉

Positive Energy + The Ivy 

Another counselor at my office gave me a stem off her Ivy several months ago. I warned her not to. That I kill all things green, but she said she had faith in me (bad idea). 

The plant quickly started to die. The three leaves it had at the time started to whither and turn brown. I knew this look as I had done it to plants before. 

I sadly confessed to her what I had done and she said, “It’s feeding off your energy.” That was a little TOO holistic for me, but who was I too judge. My plants are dead. Hers are large and beautiful. She gave me some tips to revive it and I said I’d try again. 

Y’ALL. I don’t know if it’s “my energy” or some small factor I may have changed, but look at this plant! 🌱🌱🌱 

It’s not dead. It didn’t give up. It held in there with me through my toughest semesters and obstacles. As I start to breathe and look forward…
 so does my plant. 
Maybe she was on to something after all. 

#ivy #greenthumb #plants #growth #progress #perservere #fighter #survivors #counseling #therapeutic #grounding #groundingmyself #positiveenergy #depression #anxiety #gradschool #composmentiscounseling