THE Real Life Never Ending Story


Okay guys. Here come the feels. 

I am not having the best day. In fact, I am in what I call a “funk.” I have low energy, I have little of myself to give, and I know I’m ready for a break. 

I have good insight and resources to help myself when I get in these moods though. So I was sitting at my desk starting to plan my pity party when it hit me… what if I didn’t? 

What if I wasn’t insightful? 

What if I didn’t have resources?

What if the funk never ended??

What if. 

Can you imagine it?? 

Take your time. 

Seriously. Take a minute. 

Imagine your worst day. When you’re exhausted and you have nothing left to give.
But you HAVE TO keep going. Your family needs you. 

Now add on anxiety. 
Not a little. Let’s go big and add the full shebang. You worry about EVERYTHING. 

So You’re depressed and guilty about it. And you worry about that. And you worry about the bills. And your kids. And your job. And your health. And that thing you said in third grade. And your hair. And your husband. And your mother in law. And the bananas that are going bad. And. Every. Other. Thought. That comes through your head. 
And then. You get more depressed because you cannot stop getting anxious about it. 

Anxiety and depression not your cup of tea? 

Okay, go back to that worst day ever you were imagining. Now imaging humming. All day. Loudly. Add a buzzing too. You know what, lets add voices too. Four. Three talking to each other. One to you. And they. Don’t. Stop. All day. And all night. 

Over. 

And over. 

And over. 

They just keep talking. 

Can you imagine it??
What if you hated your body? Your beautiful body that helps your live life. What if, when you looked in the mirror, it didn’t even look like you? What if it was a scary monster you didn’t recognize and you would do anything in your power to change the mirror? What if that included starving or other forms of self harm?

Can you imagine??

Bare with me. 

Imagine your worst day. 

Imagine my funk. 

Now imagine it happening. Again. And again. And again. 

Mental illness is real. 

Whether people choose to talk about it or stigmatize it, IT EXIST. People are dealing with very serious issues. The more we talk about it, the more likely people are to reach out for help. 

Do your part and spread the word. 

This is 2017. It’s time people accept the reality that is mental illness. 

#suicidepreventionweek #endstigma #keeptalkingmh #sicknotweak #composmentiscounseling ❤️

Effort + Results 

Ever heard the first step is the hardest? 

Every great journey in life started SOMEWHERE. That great basketball player you admire so much had to dribble his first ball. That amazing scientist working to cure cancer? She had to learn to read. 

Everyone has a first step to their journey. 




That first step, the baby step, adds up. It may not seem important to you right now or it may be just the opposite. It may terrify you. You may be so scared of your journey that you keep pushing off that first step. 

My encouragement to you today is do it. Try. Have faith. Believe in yourself and in possibilities. 

Sometimes.. a little effort can lead to big results. 

Graduation Reflection 

Guess who graduates in THREE DAYS? 👊 That’s right! This girl right here! 🌻

Never did I imagine people would be coming to ME asking questions about getting their degree or careers in counseling! I’m “little ole nobody.” 

Right

You’ve probably said it before.  I did

Week after week. 

Month after month. 

Until finally I decided to ignore or better yet reframe those negative thoughts to something positive

I AM ME.

I AM STRONG.

IT WILL BE TOUGH, BUT SO AM I. 

I CAN DO THIS. 

Ever since I decided to get out of MY OWN WAY, nothing has stopped me. 

Some days have been harder than others, but every.  single.  one of them have been worth it to get to this point. 

This is the point in my life where I show that insecure, doubting girl from 2.5 years ago that SHE DID IT! 🎉

Maslow’s Hierachy 

Happy Monday, y’all! 

After having pneumonia for a WEEK and missing much of my work week, I’m back today! Playing catch up on paperwork and calling clients. 

One fun thing I’ve worked on is updating my cork board. 

In my last clinical class, we talked about the need of involving case management in counseling. That the two do not have to be mutually exclusive and a good counselor SHOULD be checking on their client’s basic needs. Well, we referenced Maslow’s Hierachy of Needs and it stuck with me. 

Today for my board, I added this new posting. 

My hope is that it is clean and simple enough that clients can understand it and reach out as needed. I feel like I will probably ended up changing the way I phrase my writing or the way I display it all together, but I loved the idea so I wanted to go ahead and put it into play AND share with you guys. 

What do you think? Do you believe you can truly do counseling with someone about their interpersonal relationships, self esteem, etc if they don’t have food and water at home? 

I pride and market myself as being a holistic counselor. I think it’s good to take a step back and remember to look at the person as a whole. Really look. Ask if needed. What’s going on in their life. How can you help? 
Asking about basic needs and having a resource list ready seems to be a good fix  for this missing link. 
My thoughts for the day. 

Best, Tana 

Want A Happier Life?

Eliminate the word can’t from your vocabulary. 

Seriously. Go ahead. 

I’ll wait. 

Erase, delete, unfriend. Whatever you’ve got to do. 

Get. Rid. Of it. 

If you know anything about me, you know in addition to my CBT background, I am HUGE on Choice Theory. There’s something empowering about reminding someone they have the power and responsibility in their own life. 

On that note, I would accept a person’s choice not to participate in a given activity or to choose to do something else instead. However what I choose not to endorse is the word CAN’T. 

I never understood how a small word could be so BIG until I started counseling. 

Can’t puts into our heads we aren’t enough and never will be. It has a negative connotation and robs us of our hope

I’m also not a huge fan of the word  hate either (though I’ll save that for a later post), but my dislike for the word Can’t comes pretty close. 
 
What would happen if you tried? 

What would happen if you said can?

What if you believed it? 

I would like to challenge you to stop looking for ways out of difficult situations… stop looking at the obstacles as impossible barriers you can never overcome. Instead, challenge yourself. Motivate yourself. Look at this as an opportunity to put your skills to the test and FIND A WAY to make it. 
Challenge yourself today to tell yourself and believe You CAN.  

I leave you today with an example of me practicing what I preach. As you’ve probably read on a previous post (or will hear again a future one), I am BUSY. This is a very busy and trying time in my life. Saying I can’t do this or I can’t do that would be easy, but I constantly challenge myself to push. I remind myself WHY I am juggling so much right now, WHY my goals are so important, and WHY I CAN handle anything for a short period of time if I just set my mind to it. Pictured here is my storage closet office. It is sad. It is pathetic. And it is me saying I CAN. 

My entire “Office” fits inside the closet. Desk, Shelf, and Printer!

Every day I sit at my little wobbly, Dollar Store, desk, decide which task is most urgent tonight, And I remind myself YOU CAN. 

If you want more happiness in your life, I challenge you to tell yourself the same thing. Say you can. Say it so much you start to believe it. Then one day… one day. you might surprise yourself and actually start to believe in yourself


So throw away CAN’T. It never did anything good for you. 




Always,
 Tana